Originally Posted by avlight

I have dated both the Christian and the non-Christian single woman. I'll tell you a truth that will freak many people out.

The non-Christian single women treated me a whole lot better.

They accepted me for who I was. They encouraged me in my career path. They were more humble and greatful when I bought them a little something special. They never complained that I did not make enough money. They never tried to 'usurp' the male role in the relationship. They did not try to change and mold me into something else that was not me.

However, of the two that I dated, both of them got to the point of the girl wanting to take the relationship and trying to initiate the relationship to the sexual intercourse realm to which I had to be firm and tell them 'NO" which also caused the end of those relationships.

The christian women. I was never good nor 'spiritual' enough for them. They always tried to get me to forsake my technical related career for a career in sales/marketing/business/finance (it sounded more pristine). I never made enough money for them. Because I loved working with computers and repaired my friends computer many times made me a 'suspect' of one who must dabble in internet pornography at 3 AM 'doing the M' while thinking about them. They wanted to dominate the relationship and tell me what to do, what kind of clothes to wear, what Christian authors I should be reading and what kind of music that better be in my CD player and to discard my best friends because they were not 'spiritual' enough for them even though they are some of the most solid believers I ever met. To them, I was 'guilty' and 'not able to be trusted' simply because I am a man and they bought the common Christian mentality of Christian man as dirtbag and Christian woman as perfected saint.

I couldn't meet their 'expectations' that felt more like 'bondage and stronghold' than any bad habit and I learned later on that God did not want me to exceed their expectations. God just wanted me to lean on Him, take up my cross, and crucify that flesh daily and transform myself by the renewing of the mind.

I know better, and that is why I want and desire the Godly Christian wife who loves me as I am.