In my opinion, the entire idea of "courtship" is a lot harder to apply in our modern world. The process of courtship is extremely traditional.
For instance, it has a lot of involvement with parents. However, if the parents aren't Christian, this throws a lot of that out.
It talks about if the two are ready for marriage. However, as people are getting married older and older, the parents might not be around, or they may just be out of the picture.
On top of requiring the parents to be Christians, it requires them to approve. While this is usually a good thing with good parents, a future spouse might have a different view than the parents.
The requirement to meet before as friends and get to know each other in public situations is also pretty hard to do. In an increasingly busy world, some people don't have the free time to socialize as much as is required for courting. And while I think it's a good idea to be friends first, this can often be a HUGE problem if you don't start being friends with the intent on courting. If you start being friends just to be friends, your views of each other can be confused and the entire process can be prolonged from what it was originally intended.
While there are some good tips, I think that they are already stated in dating. Serious dating means that both of you are seeking God's will and praying. Serious dating includes the parents (when possible) as well as friends. In serious dating, every person you date is a candidate for marriage.
The idea of courtship sounds pretty good, but I think it's just too sublime for our culture. While I don't agree with a lot of definitions that society has put along with dating, I prefer to fix these definitions rather than to force the culture to readopt a practice that has been abandoned for over 100 years.
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