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Bondman · 08-14-2008, 07:37 AM

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Originally Posted by worshipper

Good question.

My dh says that he does JUST that; but there have been a few times; not in the past few years, that I actually said to him "If God/Jesus loves me like you do, and if I wasn't already saved, I don't think I would be interested"

The Lord continued to show me His love through His Word and encouraged me to love my dh with the love that He had given me through Jesus. That is the ONLY way.

Thank You Lord for Your amazing love for us and the patience to teach us and mold us into the likeness of Your son by using our marriages and spouses to help us be more like You.

I pray that we all see ourselves in these words and trust the Lord to do the work in our hearts that we all need.

AMEN...

"Lord, We will stand in faith and continue to love our spouses as they are; as You gave them to us and we pray that both ourselves and our spouses will be obedient to Your word in ALL ways..." :Pray:

Thank you Bondman...

Happy to help where I can, worshipper! Judging by what you said to hubby (at top of this post), sounds like maybe you two guys have really been 'telling it straight' to each other for quite some time. Which can sometimes be a good thing, but that's for another time.

I've found that most wives don't realise the truth that "behind every successful man is a good woman". A man DOES need to be successful. I don't mean become a millionaire, or a CEO of a major company, not that sort of success, but rather that he feels like he's doin' good and is a special person in the eyes of his wife. Most wives don't seem to have a clue about this truth either: the power to MAKE or BREAK your hubby IS IN YOUR HANDS! You literally can make him, or you can break him! Serious stuff - so the Christian wife will want to MAKE him, right!!

This time the pertinent verse is at the very END of the husband and wife passage in Ephesians Ch 5!! (I really like that - love the way the Lord thinks, and has led His servant Paul to write as he has.) Okay, here we go from the Amplified Bible, to get the fullest possible understanding of what may be derived from the the original Greek text: Ephesians 5:33 However, let each man of you [without exception] love his wife as [being in a sense] his very own self; and let the wife see that she respects and reverences her husband, that she notices him, regards him, honors him, prefers him, venerates, and esteems him; and that she defers to him, praises him, and loves and admires him exceedingly].

Now here's something that I find utterly amazing and really quite WONDERFUL: true and committed LOVE can and will bring about all of the above!!!!! How do I know? Well I've been strictly forbidden not to write this - but I'm trusting that Beloved won't kill me for being 'disobedient'! FACT: she was doing ALL of the above BEFORE ever reading it in the Amplified, i.e., true, serious, committted love does them all without ever having to read it in the Word!! (I hereby swear you all to total silence about this, else Bondman may never write another word here ever again! hehehehe)

The result of treating me like this - CHANGED MY WHOLE LIFE!! So much so that I literally would NOT be here writing this, no way! - couldn't POSSIBLY have become who I am today to be able to, but for the effects INTO MY LIFE of the love and respect and especially the encouragement and honour and esteem with which she has treated me (she's always maintained that 'it's no big deal'!) IT'S A FACT THAT I HAD NO BELIEF IN MYSELF AT ALL - until her love started changing me.

So you gals, you have the power!!! The power to do good or the power to do bad. The Holy Spirit is right there in you to give you all the love you need to change your man for the better. SUGGESTIONS: Start building him up, not tearing down. Please do this truthfully, i.e., don't tell him what's not true, but rather look for what he has abilities and compliment/encourage him about them. Figure out a way to let him know that you believe in him. Be creative. Give him some (genuine) compliments. Don't overdo it; just here and there, even as if it's a throw away line till he gets used to you complimenting. It has to be REAL too, or he'll sense that it's just words. Help him to feel his importance to you as a real man, that he really is 'someone' to you (not a 'no one'). And of course first DO spend time considering and PRAYING about all this.

Will you have to push past or give up current thoughts and feelings in order to do the above? Almost certainly. But God WILL help you - because this is being obedient to what HE wants you to be and do!! I reckon that's enough! Feel free to share problems, successes or queries here. Bless you ladies who can do amazing things in your husband's life!

- BM