Bondman & Mrs, you are in my prayers, and

for He is the Great Physician. May He keep you both snug in His arms, give you both the peace of mind and the comforts from those things,
that have taken control of your lives.
As it is our place not to question God, we as Christians know well that there is a reason.
God will give you comfort, and help you through the rough times, and please remember that He tells us that He will never burden us with more than we can stand.
He says...For I am with you always, and when you are too tired to move onward, He will carry you.

Wayne