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Fluffy · 05-22-2008, 02:02 PM

Hey ya'll! Another most excellent book is "Love and Respect".....oh, man! I forgot who wrote it!
But what it basically says is the deepest need of a man is respect. The deepest need of a woman is love. (yes, we both need both, but one needs more of the other!) When a woman doesnt feel the love, she doesnt give the respect. When the man doesnt get the respect, he doesnt give the love. And the cycle goes on and on.
It takes one person to jump of the merry go round and decide that no matter what, they are going to give the other person the respect/love that they so need. It may take a long time to see results, but it will work.
In a respectful way (this means tone, body language as well as the words you use), talk to him and find out if something is going wrong at work. Ask if there is something you can do to help him.
I heard somewhere to ask your husband what you can do to help him accomplish what he is set out to do. That is part of what being a "helpmeet" is.
When we are obedient to our husbands, we are being obedient to the Lord.
Colossians 3:18 "Wives, submit to your own husbands, as is fitting in the Lord."

Verse 23 and 24 " And whatever you do, do it heartily, as to the Lord and not to men, knowing that from the Lord you will recieve the reward of the inheritance, for you serve the Lord Christ."

Now, got to put a disclaimer in here: if he is asking/telling you to do something that is criminal or ungodly you must respectfully refuse. Otherwise, you are partners and you have a say in decision making, but ultimately, the responsibility is on his shoulders.
I am glad to see more wives looking to the bible for answers in how to be wives. As a modern culture, I think we have lost something vital and valuable to the family unit as a whole.