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Dusty · 05-02-2008, 01:26 PM

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Originally Posted by Paradox

You did come across strong, but I think it's awesome to be passionate about stuff. I have been in an emotionally abusive relationship, but nothing more. I say emotionally in the sense that I was manipulated to the point of being made the guilty person for everything. And I truely feel guilty for everything. But I don't think that's a good enough reason for me to get a divorce. Even though it still hurts.

I have been the victim of both physical and sexual abuse as a child. And I don't think that ANYONE should ever have to endure that. That's why I wonder why the Bible mentions nothing about that as a reason to get a divorce. The Bible just seems silent on some issues.

First of all I know what divorce can do to families and I certainly did not want that in my life but sometimes there are instances where there are no other ways.. I f it can be resolved between husband and wife by all means please get help and prayer so that the two can stay together. I do not want to see any one divorce. It is satans way of getting into homes and bringing downfall.

Yes Paradox.... emotions run a lot deeper and sometimes are more hurting that the physical abuse.Hurtful words can remain in the mind and crop up so they are very hurtful. I am still after 10 yrs dealing with the emotional trauma but I can tell you little by little as I place each thought and flashback that comes to my mind into the hands of Jesus , I am rest assured that He is able to wash away all the guilt that I have and put it into the sea of forgetfulness. What an awesome God we serve.

I could have been a statistic on medication and even to the point of being in an instititution but for the comfort that I received from Christ. It is not an easy road but I know that all things work together for good and that Christ and the Holy Spirit lead and guide and , I don't have to be fearful any more.

I have put my complete trust in the Lord Jesus Christ... waiting upon Him for answers and know that He alone is my sourse. He is first in my life.

The main thing is , I have forgiven my abuser and I have forgiven myself and that is where the rubber meets the road when you can forgive yourself.