A very grieving topic, divorce is.
Now that my Yoda impersonation is done, I'd like to chime in on this sad yet real issue. I have been married six years. And when it comes down to it, I would not for one moment let regret creep into my mind. It's not that I feel that God has rendered marriage sacred, it's because I believe God has rendered it sacred. But do problems arise? They sure do.
When my wife and I start to argue, we follow a strict guideline of sticking to the point. That was if our kids ever witness our arguments, they see that people don't always agree, and don't need to insult in order to get the point accross. There are often times that if I feel anger swell up, I take a time out. I will remove myself from the situation and go outside. I'll usually sit on the tailgate of my truck for a while before my wife comes out. We then quietly conversate until the problem is resolved.
It's my belief that Christ has to be the focus in the marriage. If we place our trust in Christ, He will allow the married couple to experience real love. I also believe that marriage is not 50/50. It's 100/100. You give all, and your spouse gives all.
It seems odd to family members and friends that my wife and I are doing so well. My parents divorced when I was two. My dad has been in the picture for a total of about four years in my 29 years of existence. I haven't spoken to him since 1997. No anger on my part. Just wonder. My wife's parents filed divorce literally the day after my wife and I got married. Their excuse was to stay married until after our wedding day. My father-in-law is a believer (although his faith is weakened). He is still single to this day and wonders what went wrong. My mother-in-law has a live-in boyfriend and all of that. So in a sense, my wife and I have examples on how to fail. But with Christ I hope that our bond will never disolve.
My prayer to anyone who is going through a divorce is to cling to Christ. Rejection is a human trait, a trait that is not even in our Heavenly Father's vocabulary. To those who are hitting hard times, my prayer is to again cling to Christ. He is the glue that bonds your marriage together.
Now that I've said this, I'll go on and read the rest of this thread and hope I didn't step on anyone's toes.
