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Dusty · 05-01-2008, 01:56 AM

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Originally Posted by Paradox

Question...What do you (anyone) think are the reasons for divorce. If I'm not mistaken, the Bible only gives one reason for divorce, and that's infidelity. But what if a person endures any kind of abuse?

Second part...If a marriage suffers from infidelity, does it HAVE to end? Or is the Bible saying a marriage MAY end?

Paradox, I honestly think that you already know these answers but are just throwing them out to get others opinion.

I was in an abusive marriage for 20 yrs , emotionaly, physically and mentally but felt I needed to stay put until God removed me because I adored my son and probably paid more attention to him and tried to shelter him from all the abuse Because my ex knew how much I loved my son he played on that threatening me by saying he would kidnap my son if I left and I would never see him again which literally broke my heart as I knew he could do it because he was not born in this country.

To make a long story short I also knew that my ex was running around and found evidence but could not pin him down until he started having telephone conversations and the girl phoned once when I answered the phone . It was then that I believe God showed me a way out, gave me wonderful council, a top notch lawyer, friends who rallied around me and prayed and eventually after five years of courts and more courts ( the police charged him with assault) I was released from my prison.

There is so much more to the story but do not want to go there, but what I am telling you and any one in an abusive situation. God does not want any one to suffer in that way and especially when there are children in the mix . It is too tramatic on them. After 10 yrs my son still is very cold and distant but there is nothing I can do. I can see the pain and hurt and bitterness in his eyes but he refuses to talk to me about it.

Your number 2 question is a no brainer. adultery is a sin and is another reason why God says a marriage can dissolve.