Paradox, I've felt the same way in the past. My wife is very "opinionated" and feels her way is God's way. She's human. After 17 years of marriage I've learned that as the spiritual leader in my home, it is up to me to change first for the better. She is a Godly woman, so if she is constantly criticizing me, there must be a good reason why. I've had to confess my pride, humble myself before her and God, and make positive changes in my life. This includes spending more time listening to her complaints and focusing not on the surface issue at the moment but delving deeper to the root issue. It also includes supporting her in her interests and spending more time with our children.
I have spent a good many years telling myself that I would just have to put up with her. That has slowly been changing, especially over the last few months. I've slowly begun to give her my heart. That was the key for me, giving her my heart. It hasn't been easy, but it has been rewarding. I can see a difference in her.
I say all this just to say that there is hope. I know. My marriage is far from perfect, but after 17 years it is much better than it was a year ago. God is good.
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