On a number of occasions over the past 13 years, I have threatened to divorce my wife. Usually in the heat of a fight. My wife has admitted that she feels I am always to blame for all the bad things that happen. I also feel like everything is my fault. She also admits that it doesn't sit well with her making me take all the blame, but she says it's easier than sharing the responsibility (that was good of her to admit).
None the less, I am always beating myself up and allowing this woman to treat me this way. Every once in a while, I stand up for myself, but she knows exactly how to get and keep me down.
She also doesn't respect things I suggest. Lately, I've been trying to make our marriage loving again by working through the questionairs on the marriagebuilders.com website. I asked my wife if she'd be interested in taking these questionairs to help our marriage. This was a week ago, and she still hasen't even so much as looked at the sheets I printed out from the website. This is very normal. Eventually, she'll just throw away the material and say "our marriage is fine". I'm a slave in my marriage.
But I still don't know if this is any reason to get a divorce. Plus, we have a 2 year old girl whom I could never leave. She's the glue in our marriage right now, I'm sorry to say. I feel so bad for her when she sees us fight (even though we are generally civil about it with her in the room). I have cried so many times in the last two weeks, I just can't handle much more. (My daughter will go to my wife and say "Daddy cry", and that tears me up even more) I'd rather be dead than serving another minute in this prison we call marriage. But I keep going for my daughter.
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